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Thursday, December 15, 2005

Zen Listening

Right now I am working "with" another attorney who has two modes: 1) undue, odd flattery, and b) overbearing, in which he tries to assert that "this is the way it is going to be." Every so often the overbearing aspect starts to rankle me, but digging in my heels in out of resistance would not serve my client. Instead, I am practicing dissassociating from his mannerisms. I listen to his words, letting them flow in one ear and out the other. It is kind of a Zen state...where I let the conversation go by, simply listening for any points that may prove important. Most of what he has to say arrogant posturing - probably has something to do with compensating for his short stature. He made a point during out intial contacts to let me know that he knew my (high) bar number, and has been patronizing ever since. That's fine....even mildly amusing. Let him underestimate me.


At 10:55 AM, Blogger Wannabee said...

His patronizing may result in your favor. I was working with a young outside counsel from a Biglaw firm in a deposition, and the opposing plaintiff's counsel started lecturing her on her questions! It was so patronizing and insulting that she obviously got very angry, but the person being deposed (the plaintiff's doctor) was also offended and started volunteering very damaging information on the plaintiff's case to us (namely, that the plaintiff did not have any injury resulting from the alleged tor - everything was preexisting). So, counsel being a pompous ass backfired. Ah Zen.

Please keep up the postings - very informative!


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